What to do with cremated remains
The choice of a final resting place for the cremated remains of a loved relative is an important and far reaching decision. This information attempts to outline some of the alternatives you may wish to consider.
No-one should hurry into making a decision because very often it is impossible to alter arrangements if you change your mind later.
If you are unsure, insist that cremated remains are held until you have explored and considered all the options and are certain in your own mind that you have made the right choice.
If you would like the cremated remains to be laid to rest at the Crematorium, our sympathetic staff are always willing to explain the options in more detail and discuss the various types of memorial which are available.
Our address and telephone number is listed below and personal callers are welcome. It is, in fact, easier for us to help you when you call into our offices in person because we can show you around and you can see examples of memorials.
Scattering of the Ashes on the Crematorium Lawns
A record is kept of which lawn the ashes have been laid to rest but the precise location is not recorded. If you wish to know the exact spot where the ashes have been strewn, then you can attend to witness the scattering. There is a charge for this service. View our fees and charges.
If you wish to purchase a memorial plaque after the ashes have been scattered we cannot guarantee that the plaque will be located near to where the ashes have been laid to rest. Find out more about memorials
Interment in a Cremated Remains Grave
Most cemeteries and some churchyards have established a section specifically for the interment of ashes. Your funeral director, local clergy, council or parish council will be able to advise on options available in your locality.
Kettering Borough Council have graves for ashes at Burton Latimer, Broughton, Desborough, London Road and Rothwell Road Kettering, and Rothwell cemeteries, where a grave will accept the cremated remains of up to four related people. A memorial may be erected on the grave, once permission is given and the proposed memorial complies with the relevant cemetery regulations.
Interment in a Family Grave
It is usually possible to inter ashes in an existing family grave in a cemetery or churchyard, even if the grave is full and unable to accept any further burials. Also, some cemetery authorities will allow ashes to be scattered over an existing family grave, although this is not something that is permitted by Kettering Borough Council. Your funeral director will be able to advise on local regulations, and also on the appropriate authorities to contact.
Many people have a favourite place that has special memories or holds great significance to their life. It may be possible for you to scatter the ashes of your loved one at such a place, but please discuss this with us or your funeral director first to ensure that you do not meet legal or other obstacles.
Burial at Sea
From time to time people ask for the ashes to be scattered or buried at sea. Arrangements can be costly and involved. Again, seek advice from your funeral director or us.
Forwarding Ashes to another Crematorium
All crematoria will accept the ashes of a person cremated at another crematorium. If, for example, a relative has in the past been cremated elsewhere, ashes can be forwarded to that crematorium and laid to rest with those from a previous cremation. There may be a charge for this.
Retained by the Family
The ashes can be retained by the relatives of the deceased for however long or for whatever reason they wish. Your funeral director will be able to supply a suitable container and will arrange for the ashes to be collected from the crematorium for you.
Remember, there is no need for you to hurry into a decision. We know this is a distressing time for you and your family. We know you will probably need time to talk over your decision. We will look after the ashes of your relative for up to three months while you decide what to do (a small charge will be made after the first month). If you have any questions at all, please do not hesitate to contact us.
Collection of Ashes from the Crematorium
Generally ashes are collected from the crematorium by your chosen funeral director. However, from time to time family members may wish to do this themselves. Please be aware that we can only release ashes to the applicant for the cremation as documentation needs to be signed. If you wish to collect ashes from us then please call Bereavement Services on 01536 525722 to arrange a suitable day and time for this to happen. The Customer Service Centre is located between the two chapels and the opening hours are 8:00 am - 4:00 pm Monday to Friday.